Dating Tips in the Lead Up to Valentine’s Day
Yup, it’s that time of the year again…
And while Valentine’s Day is a wonderful time to celebrate and express romance with your partner, the rest of us spending Valentine’s Day alone may feel attacked and pressured during the season. After all, with the overwhelming amount of Valentine’s Day marketing specifically targeting couples, it’s easy to feel left out.
A lot of people tend to avoid their dating apps when Valentine’s Day comes around. This could be because they don’t want to deal with the pressure of the season, or it may be because you actually connected with someone recently and you don’t know how to approach the topic of Valentine’s Day.
So, if you’re wondering if you should scroll through your preferred online dating app or website with Valentine’s Day approaching, we’ve got you covered.
We’ve made a quick guide of tips for ways you can make the most of your dating apps and websites with Valentine’s Day on the way, and how you can approach the topic with your current connections without putting pressure or sounding awkward.
Keep reading to learn more.
How to Make the Most of Dating Apps with Valentine’s Day Approaching
Valentine’s Day, dating apps, and online dating are a weird combination. Navigating through conversations and finding matches during the first weeks of February may feel different, but here are three tips you can use whenever opening your preferred dating app over the coming weeks.
Don’t Let the Pressure Get to You
First things first: you do not need a Valentine’s date. Despite what all the commercials and ads tell you, love and romance exist every day. So, if you don’t feel like going out, meeting people, or even talking to anyone on dating apps during Valentine’s Day, you don’t need to!
And on the flip side, just because Valentine’s Day is coming, that doesn’t mean you need to be extra nice or change up your profile. If you have a hard time during the season, going on your dating profile as if it’s just a regular day may make it easier.
Also, while it may seem like the holiday changes everything, it doesn’t. So, make sure to keep your online dating expectations levelled and realistic even with the season approaching.
On top of that, if you succumb to the Valentine’s Day pressure, you’re more likely to bite into scams. Holidays like Valentine’s Day are a prime time for scammers to go on dating apps to trick people into giving them money or other things.
So, just because you really want a connection during Valentine’s Day, you need to stay vigilant. Online dating scams are cruel ploys that exploit people’s emotions. And the pressure of the season may make you more vulnerable to these ploys, so make sure that your match’s story is consistent and checks out to avoid getting scammed.
Don’t Be Afraid of the Subject
While we recommend paying extra attention to your matches during Valentine’s Day as there are scammers abound during this time. However, if you’ve already been talking to someone on the dating app for a week or even a month before the season, the dynamic is a bit different.
At this point, you might already have some sort of connection to the person. But referring to our last tip, the pressure of Valentine’s Day can be deceiving, and if you don’t think either of you is ready to commit to the holiday, that’s fine. However, that doesn’t mean you have to avoid it together.
It can be pretty scary to even mention Valentine’s Day to online dating matches, as you never want to send the wrong idea. However, it can also give off a pretty weird vibe if you choose not to mention the topic at all.
So, how do you approach Valentine’s Day with someone you just matched with?
Our advice is to approach the topic as casually as possible. You want to show your match that you aren’t completely avoiding the topic, while you also aren’t asking to schedule a date at the time. On top of that, this can also be a great point of conversation and lead to an interesting exchange between you and your match!
In fact, another great way to acknowledge the holiday without sounding like you’re asking for a date or putting pressure on your match is to greet them with a simple “Happy Valentine’s Day” in the morning. Or, you could also send them an e-card if you have been talking for a while, but we don’t recommend anything more than that.
This leads us to our very next tip, which is…
You May Want to Avoid Scheduling a Valentine’s Date
Valentine’s Day puts unnecessary pressure on single people, which is why our first tip for people on dating apps during Valentine’s Day is to avoid the pressure. And one of the best ways to do that is to avoid scheduling a date at the time. This is especially true for people who have only been matched with people for a couple of weeks.
Love bombing is becoming more and more rampant on dating apps, and it’s definitely a red flag to avoid. During Valentine’s Day, people can be pressured into taking dates more seriously than they need to, which can cause a bit of tension between you and your match. On top of that, people you just matched with online may have different views on the holiday, and you don’t want to risk scheduling a date on that day unless you’re on the same page.
But if you still want some company as Valentine’s Day is approaching, there’s nothing wrong with scheduling a date before or after the holiday. That way, you won’t have to deal with the long queues or think about buying gifts for your date. With flowers costing a bit more than usual this season, it may actually be in the best interest of you and your match to wait out the holiday before seeing each other again.
Still feeling nervous?
Valentine’s Day can be intimidating and slightly annoying for people who aren’t in relationships. And you do not have to feel bad about feeling bad seeing all these ads and media directed towards couples. Additionally, you also don’t have to change the way you act on your online dating profile as well.
If you have a match on a dating app or website, you don’t have to bring up Valentine’s Day. After all, if you just met, you may not be ready for that type of date quite yet. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have fun during the holiday.
Don’t be afraid of your online dating apps during Valentine’s Day, and if you remember these three tips whenever you log on, you might even have a more pleasant Valentine’s Day experience than expected!