When contemplating the possibility of looking for love and romance via the internet, many people are filled with enthusiasm. Some hit it off from the very first online date, others try their luck quite a few times before meeting their soul mate. However, there are also those who, after a few attempts and unlucky dates, feel disappointed and abandon the idea of online dating all together. Do you belong to the latter category? How do you avoid online dating disappointment? If you are in this predicament yourself, here are some tips:

Don’t Set Your Expectations Too High

Be careful when setting your expectations too high when you meet people for online dating.  Instead of expecting the sparkle to show up automatically, take things easy and enjoy discovering other things. Always remember that dating is supposed to be fun.

Make Sure You Know What You Want

Before you get out there looking for love and romance, you should make sure you know what you really want. Are you looking for a casual fling or for a long term partnership? There is nothing wrong with either of them, but being aware of what you are looking for is a surefire way to avoid dating disappointment.

Check That You Are on the Same Page

Now that you know what you want, ask your potential date about their goals and interests to make sure you are on the same page. If you are looking for a long term relationship and the other is just into casual dating, both of you might get disappointed.

Google Your Date and Check Their Social Media Profiles

If you question your date’s credibility and are unsure that what your date told you is true, why don’t you take advantage of the internet’s benefits and google his / her name? Just enter the name of the person in the search field, and you will get more details than you asked for. Social media networks like LinkedIn and Facebook are a great source of information when you want to know more about someone.

Trust Your Instincts, But Ignore Irrational Fear

Another very good way to avoid dating disappointment and stay safe is to trust your instincts. When something smells fishy, there are high chances something is rotten in the state of Denmark. However, you should always try to understand if this sensation does not come from some irrational fear related to meeting someone new. In any case, make a basic background before you rule out that inner voice telling you something is wrong.

Ask Direct Questions

When you want to know the truth, you should learn how to ask the question. Do not try to read between the lines. Instead, address your potential partner a direct question and pay close attention to the answer. Any mismatching details should raise an exclamation mark, but don’t jump the gun until you are sure you are in a war situation. Instead, ask for clarification!


It may not always be easy to avoid online dating disappointment, when lowering your expectations and asking direct questions might seem easier said than done. However, trying our best to keep it simple and have fun is the least we can do when going on dates and meeting new people. If we come to a date expecting our date to be our future wife/husband, we’re bound to get nowhere, and that for sure does not serve the overall purpose. Be positive but discerning. Good luck!

Dana Simmons
Dana was determined to find that special someone. Years of being single made her reluctant to believe salvation would come from the online environment. Now a married woman and a mother of two, Dana’s an advocate of online dating sites and is passionate on writing about their success. Dana is a regular contributing writer to the Top 5 Dating Sites blog.
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