Online dating used to have a bit of a stigma – couples were embarrassed to admit that they met online. Now, however, it’s hard to meet someone who hasn’t tried their hand at online dating. Much like in the non-virtual world, there are creeps that you are better off staying away from. There seem to be more on online dating sites, probably because in real life you wouldn’t give them the time of day. Let’s go over which red flags you should watch out for, so that you don’t waste your time chatting with one of these bad apples, or worse, end up on a date with them.
Telltale Signs He’s Not a Keeper
1. Only shirtless photos
It’s safe to say that guys who post pictures of themselves wearing no shirt on their online dating profile are usually full of themselves. They may be a combination of overly confident and lacking self-esteem, which usually makes them a nightmare. Maybe they look great and want to show off their six-pack, but there’s a time and a place for this, and it’s not on your dating profile. Posting these pictures screams “look how hot I am!” and is meant to divert you away from other things – like his personality, or lack thereof… Don’t be distracted, this guy is surface-level only.
2. All of his pictures are with girls
Why would someone post pictures on a dating site with girls wrapped around them, or sometimes even kissing other girls? It seems to make no sense, yet it’s done often enough. Maybe they think that showing themselves in a happy relationship with an ex would make you think they seem great, or that other girls find him desirable. When trying to meet a potential girlfriend, displaying pictures of you with other girls has no place. Unless of course it’s a relative, but how are you supposed to know?
3. Duck face photos
Need I say more? If a guy posts a photo where he is making a duck face, he’s probably either clueless or a narcissist. Unless he’s doing it in an obviously comical way in one photo, and in the rest of his pictures he has a normal expression on his face. Funny duck face is the only acceptable duck face, as far as I’m concerned!
4. He has a cheesy username
If his username on his online dating profile is something like “Me4U” or “YourDreamGuy”, it’s probably not worth connecting with them. There’s a slight chance he’s doing it as a joke, so if you want to risk it, that’s up to you. But chances are he’s either a player or a goofball, so I’d keep scrolling if I were you. There are plenty of more serious guys out there, so it’s better not to waste your time.
5. His age preference is suspicious
If his profile shows that he is looking for women from ages 18 to 96, or whatever the maximum age range is on the particular dating site he’s on, this can mean one of two things. A) He’s a creep. Or B) He’s not looking for a serious relationship. He didn’t even bother filling out the simplest detail in his profile.
If he did fill out which ages he’s interested in and it’s something like 18-22 while he’s a 35 year old. I think you know why you should stay away from him.
6. All of his pictures are non-smiling selfies
The guy who posts five selfies of themselves, with the exact same boring facial expression, in front of the same wall in his apartment, and only changes his shirt for each photo. Those guys either have no creativity, or their personality probably sucks. He’s just trying to show what he looks like, and isn’t interested in showing anything about his unique character.
7. He posts pictures of his pants
And just his pants. I think you’re smart enough to know that you should avoid this guy.
8. He’s stalking you
He wrote you a message and saw that you read the message or looked at his profile. Then he writes you again: “You’re peeking at me, but not writing back? L” Maybe you would have written back, but that’s a turn off, if you ask me. You might still be interested and be considering writing back to him later, but then he keeps writing “???” or just “Hi, how are you?” a bunch of times. This guy is incredibly clingy. Persistence can be a great thing, but not when it’s over-the-top.
9. He acts like he’s your boyfriend before you’ve even met
There is no lack of this guy, unfortunately. You’ve just begun to chat, but you haven’t even met yet, and he’s already acting like you’re his girlfriend. He sends you messages calling you “sweetie”, with a frightening amount of emojis, and gets mad if you don’t respond right away. Sometimes these guys are the hardest ones to set a date with – it may even seem as though he doesn’t actually even want to meet in person, and wants to have some kind of weird virtual “relationship.” When he starts prematurely acting like you’re in a relationship, that’s when I’d run the other way.