There are only two feelings that we encounter when February the 14th, a.k.a Valentine’s day approaches. Either we welcome it gladly and look at it as a special day to spoil the ones we love, or we dislike it. When we are single, all those adverts and posters of love just remind us how single we actually are. Luckily for us, there are dating coaches around the world that are there to help us in our conquest to find love.
The following experts range from psychological to relationship guru and everything in between. They have put their vast dating knowledge down into books in order to share their insider tips with the world. Reading one or more of the books below might be just what you need to turn your dating life around. Just know that amongst these lies one or more unique dating tips that will call to you!
The Psychological Expert
Years ago, when I was a teenager, the book ‘Men Are from Mars, Women Are From Venus’ by John Gray came out. It was a phenomenal and informative book that outlined the fundamental differences between the sexes. It covered topics such as how the different sexes deal with problems. Gray described the “cave mentality” men have where they retreat to figure things out vs. the way women need to talk and express their feelings when things bother them. It was a great book written by a real psychologist and helped men and women understand each other. Gray followed up with books like ‘Mars and Venus on a Date’ and ‘Beyond Mars and Venus.’ If you are searching for real love, OurTime is an online dating site where you will find mature people to connect with.
The Old-Fashioned Gals
23 years ago, the book ‘The Rules’ by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider came out. It was highly controversial as it worked on the principle of playing hard to get to attract the man of your dreams. It had old-fashioned advice like keeping quiet so that your man can always take the lead. It encouraged women to never take a weekend date after Wednesday (the whole playing hard to get theme) and told women how to act on dates 1,2 and 3. It stressed that a woman must never start a conversation with a man because they will never know if he was truly interested in them. It even encouraged women to go to places where socialising would occur but to just ‘walk the room’ and carry on walking until a man approached them. It told women how long they must spend on the phone when chatting with a man.
It also covered appearance, stating things like ‘men like to play with long straight and silky hair’ and advised women to wear bright, feminine colours to attract men. The whole point of the book was getting that ring on the finger and capturing the man of your dreams. It basically gave you the feeling that for women, all life was about getting a man to marry you and having a family. Essentially it told you how to not act like yourself in order to be a ‘mysterious creature unlike any other’ that the man of your dreams couldn’t resist. To find your perfect match go to Match.com and meet someone special.
The Sassy Siren
Fast forward a few years and the bestselling book ‘Why Men Love Bitches’ by the vivacious Sherry Argov came out. This was a more self-empowering book for females encouraging women to stand up for themselves and be proud of their pay check and take care of themselves not having to rely on men so much. Argov followed it up with ‘Why Men Marry Bitches’ which was also a bestseller. She went into detail about how men do not like taking care of women who can’t take care of themselves – yes, even financially, and how relationships can’t work unless a woman can hold her own. When it comes to finding real love and with over 35 million users, Zoosk is the perfect online dating site that will help you find that special somebody.
Years later, the book ‘Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man’ by comedian Steve Harvey came out encouraging women to do just that – act like a lady and think like a man. It even went so far as to advise women to sleep with men only after 3 months of dating, which many women protested to. It explained in detail how relationships with sugar daddies never work, and how women shouldn’t think a relationship is special just because the men they “love” spend a lot of money on them. It followed with an entertaining movie – ‘Think Like A Man’ (2012) starring the beautiful Gabrielle Union and hilarious Kevin Hart. The storyline followed the principles of the book. There was even a sequel called ‘Think Like A Man Too’ (2014). If you are a professional, EliteSingles will connect you with like-minded professionals looking for love.
The Relationship Guru
Enter the god of relationship coaching – Matthew Hussey. Now Matthew comes from the UK (but currently lives in the States) and his book ‘Get The Guy’ proved to be hugely popular. He also has YouTube videos and retreats for women to learn the modern techniques of dating. Matthew goes so far as to encourage women to start conversations with men and to have whole, fulfilling lives that they enjoy without a partner in the first place. He gives really valuable advice, from what to wear on first dates to special, specific messages you should send to get him to pay attention, such as ‘You should be here now!’ and ‘This hamburger tastes so good, it’s almost sexual.’ His approach is that no matter what age, you can attract love.
But where do we find people to date? Matthew goes into detail about how to meet men and where to find them including through online dating sites. Some sites offer free dating and some you need to pay for depending on your budget and what features suit you best! eHarmony is an online dating service that uses sophisticated matching algorithms to find your perfect match.
The Greatest Coach of All Time
The latest addition to dating coaches is the unstoppable Tony Robbins. He and his wife have relationship seminars and publish videos on YouTube about love and how to have a lasting relationship. Tony Robbins has been in the coaching business for years and is one of the most established coaches of our time. It’s wonderful that he has now dived into relationship coaching with his gorgeous wife, Sage, to help the millions that are searching for love. Something Serious is a dating site that will do just that – find you a partner that is looking for a long-term committed relationship.
No matter what phase of the heart we are in, dating coaches are always there to put a little pep in our step and give advice of the heart when we need it the most!